So I talked a little bit about my mom in Willie’s leadership class today but it is really a hard time for me right now. My mom passed away from a horrible liver disease that took her away from us nearly three years ago. It was harder on me than anyone else because my mom was my everything. She raised my sister and I all on her own (my parents divorced when I was three) and my dad was absent and neglectful of child support and he was abusive when he was around. My mother was a musician and a writer and she encouraged me to go after any and all of my dreams. She never got to finish college and it was always her hope that my sister and I would. It was heartbreaking to graduate this last June without having her there with me to celebrate my achievement. I know it sounds lame but my mom really was one of my best friends. I don’t know how much I actually appreciated that fact while she was still around but it is something I have come to cherish now that she is gone. Everyone tries to tell me that it has been long enough that I should just get over it but it is a really difficult thing to accept that she is no longer in my life. The hardest days of the year for me I think will always be Mother’s Day, her birthday, and the day that she passed away, which just happens to be tomorrow. This is probably the only time of my life that I am truly sad and not really my self at all. I think that this is one of those losses that I will never get over; it is something that I will always carry with me.
The top picture is my mom at her senior prom and the bottom one is my mom and my nana at my high school graduation dinner.


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July 9, 2008 at 9:18 am
jamie
MIss Aimee, I have been sending you good thoughts since you mentioned it yesterday. I don’t think that anyone should tell you to “get over it”. I know this is a hard time for your and I admire your stregnth. If you want someone to just listen, I am here for you!
July 9, 2008 at 1:46 pm
Josh
Me too. In fact, don’t get over it. Never forget and be mindful of your sadness and grief. It is a representation of your love for her and that is a beautiful thing as long as you are honoring her in it, I think. My prayers go with you Aimee and a Big smile from me, thank you for having the courage to show your love for this special friend and guide of yours to our class. Another way you have honored her. Big hug Aimee.
Josh
July 9, 2008 at 5:34 pm
dcartwright
Aimee,
It does not sound lame. Parents are an important part of our lives. I am fortunate to still have my parents but I have gone through it with my inlaws. I know that is not the same as losing a parent at a young age but it does hurt, especially on holidays. My younger brother died about 10 years ago. It did not hit me too hard but I watched my parents struggle for years, at some level they still do. It hurts less with time but it still hurts.
ddc
July 9, 2008 at 11:54 pm
skkunz
She’s beautiful.
July 15, 2008 at 12:56 pm
Patti
Saturday is the sixth “anniversary” of my husband’s death. Honor your grief and remember your relationship. No one can tell you how to grieve or for how long. Hugs to you!
July 16, 2008 at 10:55 am
missphillips
it sucks to say i know how you feel. dammit.